Mother In Black

Yesterday Chris and I were in a shopping centre baby change room feeding our 2month old twins Kaiden and Hollie when a young Mummy came rushing with her screaming baby who was clearly hungry for a feed. This baby would have been about 4 or maybe 5 months old so would still require their bottles as well as the water in them to be sterolised, BUT instead the Mum pulled out an empty bottle walked over to the wash basin and filled up the baby bottle with water and then looked at it screwing up her face trying to figure out if it was the right measurement or not before adding what looked like a great deal of formula to such a tiny amount of water. Watching her actions of how she was taking care of her child made me think that she is one of those Mums that gives all us young Mums a bad reputation for being such horrid and bad Mums and Dads

I had my eldest daughter at 16years 7months and have coped many bad comments over the years about how I don't deserve to have had her, what a bad mother I must be due to being so young and even had people ask me why my own parents would allow me to have my daughter. I fully understand that people are entitled to their own opinion and obviously a great deal of people think badly of teen Mums, but not ALL teens that happened to have a baby are bad parents. I'm not saying that I am a perfect Mum, but I honestly don't believe that at any age you are better as a Mum. Everyone has their own mistakes and stuff ups in parenting no matter how young or old they are when they have their babies so why do people think that just because your young your bound to stuff up and not look after the child. Not to blow my own trumpet, but I happen to think I've done a damn good job at raising my daughter and still doing a good job. My age has never affected her in any sense and it would be nice if people could just back off of young Mums because we aren't all bad. A few teen Mummys might be bad, but that doesn't mean it should reflect on all teen Mums.