In late July 2009 I found out via an ultrasound that I was pregnant with twins. I remember laying on the bed and the guy putting the probe on my stomach, looking at my my belly and then took it straight back off and turned to meet my worried eyes that were filling with tears thinking that he was about to tell me we had lost our baby. He said " DID YOU SEE THAT"...I looked at him puzzled and said " UMMM NO YOU TOOK IT OFF BEFORE I COULD SEE ANYTHING".. He then put the probe back on and told Chris and I to look at the screen closely. We both looked and I still had no idea what the guy wanted us to see as it was all one big black blur to my eyes. Chris looked and then turned to me really fast and shouted "OH MY GOD THERE IS TWO IN THERE". I looked and then suddenly it was as if the big balck blur came clear and I could make out two tiny babies which looked amazing.
I must admite that I felt terrible when we left the ultrasound clinic as Chris was excited and couldn't wipe the smile off his face where as I was scared and kept thinking about how I was going to cope with having 4 kids.
As the pregnancy went on I grew to love carrying not just one baby inside of me, but two babies which was a challenge at times, but so worth every backache, REALLY bad morning sickness and eventual not being able to walk past 30weeks without feeling like I was about to pass out due to the babies resting on my major blood vessel in my back.
Whilst pregnant it was actually surprising how many strangers in shopping centres and on the street would take it upon themselves to inform me that I'm going to have my work cut out for me having twins as well astwo older children. I found this extremely rude considering these people themselves have not mothered or fathered twins or multiples so how can they even begin to know what it would be like for me and Chris to be parents to our twins.
I have a friend who had twins 9months before I had mine and she too was informed right through her pregnancy of how she wouldn't cope and how hard it is to raise multiples and she also tells me that each and every person that happened to tell her such things were parents, but only to singleton babies.
As I have often said to many people through my multiple pregnancy and especially now that I have had our twins. People can't comment or judge unless they themselves have been through raising multiples first hand as it may look hard from some peoples point of view, but I have met many multiple parents since finding out that we oursleves were expecting multiples and I'm yet to hear any of them say that it's hard and that they aren't coping. A lot of multiple parents actually admit that they find it easier to raise their twins or triplets then it was to raise their singleton babies if they happen to already have kids.
I'm not saying everything about raising our twins is hunky dory because it does have it's challengers, but at this stage the only thing that I've found to be a challange is when they both want to be fed at the exact same time and Chris isn't around to help out.
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